Children start developing independent skills from the moment they are born. Nurturing independence in children while they play is very important as it creates a valuable sense of self and self-esteem, along with the ability of handling frustration as they learn perseverance.

The most difficult aspect of encouraging a child to develop independence is watching them become frustrated, fail in their initial attempts and become disappointed when they first don’t achieve. Here are a few ideas to help children become independent through perseverance;


Having set routines can help children become independent because set routines allow the children to become aware of what is happening on a consistent basis. Having a routine is not the same as having a schedule in place. A simple routine can involve putting your shoes on and tying the shoelaces before going out and then taking the shoes off when coming back inside. Repetition is key!


Children love being involved and helping adults. Allowing them to help will aid in building their independence and will also be useful in stopping unwanted behaviours as it gives children a sense of control. When a child is allowed to help, it builds their confidence up and will help them learn new


Giving your child tasks and jobs to do will build a child’s sense of responsibility, self reliance, empathy, and help develop executive function. Setting simple tasks such as putting toys away after they have played with them will give a child a sense of responsibility and will help build discipline.


Allowing your child to make choices will also encourage independence. For example, allow your child to choose what they would like to wear when playing and provide them with a few options so that they can make a choice. Offering choice is valuable when a child wants to do things their own way as it empowers the child while you as the parent/guardian remain in full control of the situation.

Free Play

Independent play time is key for developing creativity, autonomy and problem solving skills. Even during free play where children will still demand the attention of an adult, it is important to acknowledge them and comment but you must not get involved in their free play time. Allowing a child to explore and experiment without an adult interfering is extremely important as a child will develop a sense of achievement and independence.

Allowing your child to build their independence is very important but it’s just as important to acknowledge your child’s efforts and growth, by providing verbal feedback and giving positive attention to the qualities that child possesses. This then will encourage the child to repeat their rewarded behaviour.

Building a child’s independence is not about making a child do everything on their own, it’s about making a child resilient and making sure they know they can fail and get back up and keep trying.

A child’s first visit to a nursery is their first step to independence and at Twisty Tails Nurseries our main objective is to aid a child’s independence through educational activities which are fun and full of learning.

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